Bellaafrica26)The Affair Started Before We Even Said 'I Do'
The Affair Started Before We Even Said 'I Do'
after we got married; it started before we even exchanged vows. Subscribe because this
timeline revelation changed everything.
You assume that when someone marries you, they're committed. The infidelity, if it
happens, starts somewhere down the line after things go wrong. But what if the affair began
before the wedding? What if your spouse was cheating during the engagement, during wedding
planning, or even on the wedding day? That's what I discovered about my husband, and it meant
our entire marriage was built on betrayal from day one.
My husband Ryan and I had been married for three years when I started noticing he was distant
and secretive. I found messages on his phone with a woman named Tara. When I confronted
him, he admitted to an affair but claimed it had "only been a few months." He begged for
forgiveness, saying it was a mistake he deeply regretted. I considered giving him another
chance. That's when I decided to dig deeper into the timeline of his affair, and what I found
destroyed me.
I went through old emails, messages, and everything I could access. Ryan and Tara had met at his
bachelor party; she was a bartender at the venue. They'd exchanged numbers that night.
Messages between them started a month before our wedding. Not just friendly messages, flirty,
explicit, romantic messages. Ryan had been pursuing another woman while we were in the final
month of wedding planning. He'd been texting her while I was addressing invitations. The day
before our wedding, he'd been messaging her, saying he wished he could see her. On our
wedding day, I found a message he'd sent during our cocktail hour: "Wish you were here
instead." He'd been thinking about her while marrying me.
The affair had continued throughout our entire marriage. There was never a time when Ryan
had been faithful to me, not during the engagement, not during the wedding, not during our
honeymoon, not ever. Our entire relationship, from the moment he proposed to the day I
discovered the truth, had been built on his ongoing betrayal. When I confronted him with the real
timeline, he initially tried to deny it. But the messages were undeniable. He finally admitted that
he'd never stopped seeing Tara. He'd married me because it was "expected," because our
families were invested. After all, calling off the wedding would have been "too complicated."
He'd been living a double life from the beginning.
I filed for divorce immediately. Ryan tried to claim he loved us both, that he was confused, that
he'd been trying to make the right choice for three years. But there was no choice to make; he'd
been actively cheating since before we got married. Our entire marriage was invalid in my eyes.
He'd said vows he never meant. Tara, by the way, had no idea he was married. When I
contacted her with proof, she was horrified and ended things with him immediately. Ryan ended
up with no one, which is exactly what he deserved.
That's my story of the pre-wedding affair. If you've discovered a similar timeline, you're not
alone. Like, subscribe, and remember that you deserved honesty from day one.
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